“Of one thing I am certain, the body is not the measure of healing — peace is the measure.”
— George Melton

Researchers claim that quarrels with your partner may stop your body’s ability to heal quickly. Hostility, depression, and stress all promote the release of an inflammatory protein in the blood that works two-fold. At healthy levels this protein helps in the healing process. However, chronically high levels of this blood protein can contribute to cardiovascular disease, arthritis, and some forms of cancer.

Take steps to boost your emotional and physical well-being by working on promoting a peaceful relationship and doing things you enjoy together.

“Be open to everything and not attached to anything.”
— Dr. Wayne Dyer

Thinking back on the things that disappointed me the most in life, they were all situations that I really had set my heart on getting or accomplishing. And when they didn’t happen the way I wanted them to happen— expected them to happen — I felt let down. In comes the lesson of “letting go of the outcome”. We don’t always know exactly what the end result will be, and for that reason, we need to detach ourselves from the final outcome.

Take, for example, a relationship that is ended by the other person. I remember going through this when I was younger and thinking it was the end of the world. THIS was the only person I was ever meant to be with! Only to end up meeting my future husband a few years later… Maybe I didn’t know the best outcome for myself way back then after all.

So, having an attitude of positive expectancy does create miraculous results. But don’t get caught up or attached to a specific end result. Continue with your actions, and know that they are the right things for you to do at the present moment, but surrender any attachment you have for the outcome. It’s the attachment to a specific outcome that may bring us pain. You may not realize an equal or even greater outcome that is for your greater good.

“To love deeply in one direction makes us more loving in all others.”
— Anne-Sophie Swetchine

Have you heard the explanation of true love, of a soul-mate before that goes like this; Two halves of a circle coming together to form a whole? What do you think of that definition? I know when I was growing up, that was conveyed to me in what I read, what I saw in the movies, etc. So somehow along the way, I figured that must be what true love was all about.

But what happens when the other person that I am a “half-of” doesn’t give me what I need? What if something is missing on my half. Aren’t they supposed to be my better half? Aren’t they supposed to complete me?

Well, I’ve decided to go with a different definition of “true love”. Instead of seeing two halves coming together, I see two complete (and separate) rings interlocking. Two complete people with different needs and personalities and ways of doing things that work well together (at least most of the time). If something is not complete, it is lacking in your ring. And it is for you to complete yourself and find out what is missing in your ring that will bring you contentment and keep your love intact.

“You get what you think about, whether you want it or not.”
— Esther and Jerry Hicks, Ask and It Is Given

There is a device at the base of your brain called a reticular activating device whose job it is to filter out information that we have concluded is not important and assists you in noticing the things that you have decided are important. Another way to see it is that it works in conjunction with your belief system.

For example, if you have decided that the world is full of mean people, you will primarily notice all the mean people in the world. If however, you have made it a belief that the world is full of love and miracles, you will notice more love and miracles than someone who believes otherwise.

This is also the Law of Attraction in work. Because you get what you think about, even if it is a negative thought (mean people) you will actually attract (and notice) more mean people in your life.

So do this experiment: Focus only on the things that make you feel good. Take an important relationship in your life that may not be as optimal as you would like it to be and focus only on the positive aspects of that person for one week. You will notice their behavior will actually change positively as well.

“Love fulfilled sees where we could have gone the way of love before, if we’d known how, and how insecurities limited many of our choices. Love fulfilled perceives new meaning and higher reasons behind many of the mysteries of why things happened as they did.”
— Doc Childre

Have you ever questioned why you have chosen to have certain people in your life — and more specifically in your romantic life? We all have very good reasons for making our love choices, even if we are not consciously aware of them. We may choose a relationship that will improve our life in some way, teach us something important that couldn’t be learned in any other way, or challenge us to become better people.

Today, take a closer look at the relationships you have chosen for yourself. What is the mirror in front of you trying to tell you, trying to teach you? Our relationships can be more than just a source of happiness (or pain) if we look at them from a different point of view. Why did you choose to be with this person? What are you getting out of this relationship that makes it so valuable to your life path?

Taking this moment to look deeper into the meaning of your partnering choices, you may be surprised at the deeper hidden messages that you have been sending to yourself over the years through your significant other. Give yourself the gift of self-awareness and accelerate your learning by opening up your mind to the possibilities of growth that your relationships give to you.

“There is no way to Peace. Peace is the way.”
— Mahatma Gandhi

We are all one. Deepak Chopra explains in Creating Affluence, that “All of material creation, everything that we can see, touch, hear, taste, or smell is made from the same stuff and comes from the same source.”

This is not just something that he has made up for his book, but this is something that quantum field theorists have discovered through their research. Cars, human bodies, money, and trees — all are made up of atoms.

There are many directions we could go with this information, but I am going to focus on something that affects us in our day-to-day life. Dealing with people. It doesn’t matter who you are dealing with — your husband, your children, the cashier at the grocery store, or even the odd people out there that irritate you. According to quantum physics, we are all one.

So as difficult as it might be at times, this concept makes you think twice before you want to say harsh words to get rid of the person on the phone that you don’t want to deal with, because you are actually dealing with a part of yourself! And once we can truly start dealing with everyone in our lives with love and kindness, we will start to feel inner peace and fulfillment.