Our guest, Kathy Collard of Home Inspirations, guided us on Wednesday through the messy corners of our home and our mind as we tackled real life clutter issues. Discover some of the top tips to keeping your home a place of relaxation and enjoyment, free up some of your valuable time, and unlock some of your hidden emotional blockages that might be reflected in the clutter of your house!

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“The greatness of the human personality begins at the hour of birth.”
— Maria Montessori

According to the personality testing of The Enneagram there are nine personality types. And there seems to be three main mind-sets that we, as human beings, operate or live in — one that you could call a healthy mode, one that is an average mode, and one that is more unhealthy. Of course there are always some in-between stages as well.

The level we would all like to be functioning in most of the time is our healthy mode. When we are functioning in our healthy state of being we are working at our best level of being. Things flow, things work, we are happy, we are kind. We love ourselves and we love others.

For the most part we fluctuate throughout the day between the three levels and that is perfectly normal to do so. Keep in mind that it is possible to stay for longer and longer periods of the day in the healthy level. Have faith that with the proper awareness of our states of being, we can make the necessary adjustments to keep ourselves feeling and sharing the joy of life.

“The power to create quality of life is not in any planner. The power to create quality of life is within us, in our ability to develop and use our own inner-compass so that we can act with integrity in the moment of choice.”
— Stephen Covey

What will happen tomorrow? Or the next day? Or the next week, month, year? Other than some fairly predictable norms in my life, I wouldn’t be able to answer that with much detail or accuracy because I simply cannot know about something that has not yet happened. And what about all the things that are going to happen that I can’t even imagine at this present moment? How will they affect the equation when I didn’t put them into my calculations?

So why do we take up so much of our time thinking, or worse yet, worrying about the future when we have no way to know for certain what it will entail?

No matter how challenging your situation appears to you at this time, you can make it through one day at a time. Focus on the present day and moment and what action steps you can take right now. Understand that each conscious choice you make now will create the quality of life upon which you decide.

“If you yourself are at peace, then there is at least some peace in the world.”
— Thomas Merton

Inner peace can be found through many different methods: through meditation, through gratitude, through love. When you make decisions in your life that bring about a sense of calmness it means that you are listening to your inner guides or your intuition which will not lead you astray.

This little bit of peace may seem so insignificant when there are so many people suffering in the world and so much conflict wherever we look. But if everyone were to focus on peace within themselves, it would lead to more peace in the world one person at a time.

“The chief lesson I have learned in a long life is that the only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust.”
—Henry L. Stimson (1867 - 1950)

The power of your thoughts can influence trusting another person. As Henry Stimson points out, the more you believe and treat someone as trustworthy, the more trustworthy they become to you. Conversely, if you put all your energy into not trusting someone, they will turn out to be untrustworthy. You create your own reality with your thoughts and beliefs.

But I would also encourage you to discover what is the true nature of your distrust. Is it based on present facts or fears? From personal experience, I have found that trusting someone has more to do with allowing yourself to open up to possible vulnerabilities. And therefore it has not so much to do with the other’s actions or behavior, but more to do with your own fear of being hurt.

In order to trust someone else, it is vital that you begin to trust yourself. You must trust that you are a strong enough person to handle whatever comes your way. You must trust that you are able to open your heart up and allow others in. In doing so you face your fear of getting hurt. And as Shakti Gawain reminds us, “When I’m trusting and being myself… everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously.”

“The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.”
—W.M. Lewis

How many of us spend our days talking about the life we could have, or will have soon, or should have. Unfortunately, talking about it won’t actually make it happen. Each day you have to consciously decide on the actions to take that will keep you moving forward and avoid the decisions and actions that keep you stuck in the past. Having a desire for change but not taking the necessary actions to accomplish change will leave you at a standstill and probably also leave you feeling disheartened and dissatisfied.

Debbie Ford reminds us in The Best Year of Your Life that now is the time to set clear, concise, structured goals to keep you moving forward. Take the time to set your goals on paper with specific deadlines attached for each major milestone that you need to accomplish. Recognize the action steps that you need to take and do them. With each new action you take you will be one step closer to fulfilling your goals and your desires.

“If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
— Mary Engelbreit

As I progress through my journey of life, I am coming to a big realization about a small thing — life is very much about our attitudes. Happiness, misery, strength, weakness are all about attitude. The funny part is they all require more or less the same amount of work on our part and we actually have the power to determine everyday which way it will go.

I have even heard some people state that life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we react to it all. That would mean it is vital to be in control of our attitudes and our choices that we make. How we see a certain situation or person depends on what we look for in it or them. Seek out the positive and you will find it. If you don’t like what you see, then change the way you look at it or think about it.

“As one thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
— Dr. David Schwartz, Magic of Thinking Big

Live big in your heart and you will live big in life. This could mean big in happiness, big in accomplishment, big in income, big in relationships, big in respect. You name it. When you dream a life to the point that you feel it is true in your heart, these thoughts will create real action in your life.

Take a few steps forward in your dreams and aspirations by allowing moments of opportunity and experience to come your way. Practice being the kind of person people like. Take initiative and introduce yourself to others with a smile at every opportunity.

Encourage others to talk to you about their views, opinions, and accomplishments. It also helps to practice courtesy. This makes others feel better and you will feel better about yourself, too. Accept responsibility when a setback occurs for it is a gift to be able to learn from your actions. Act like a successful person and you are a successful person!

“The greatest revolution in our generation is that of human beings, who by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”
— Marilyn Ferguson

What do you do to get your spring inspiration in gear? How about an in-house pick-me up to keep things fresh and moving? Between my daughter’s closet purging to rearranging our living room furniture, a little change in routine was just the trick to get our heads on track for new, fresh ideas.

If you find you are lagging in motivation or energy these days, it doesn’t have to mean big change to get your spirits in gear once again. I find that it’s even easier to make the necessary attitude shifts when I begin with little changes in my surroundings. Reorganize the layout of your bedroom. De-clutter your workspace. Bring in some fresh cut flowers.

These minor changes sometimes can have enormous effects on the flow of energy in your house and in your life. And it may be all you need to kick-start the change of attitude needed to make the bigger changes in your life unfold.

“You lose your balance when you say, ‘I will not accept what is happening to me.’”
— Marilyn Eileen Charlton, Life on the Causal Plain, A Glimpse of Heven

You lose your own intuitive guidance when you don’t accept what is happening to you in your life. The main goal for change is to become balanced again. In the simplest terms we are all striving for balance in our lives. However, this balance actually comes by going with the flow of life and accepting even the times that are not as easy to understand or to accept.

Life is not simply a predetermined destination. It is the journey that we are on every day. There may be unexpected curves and turns in the road we are on. We may encounter low valleys and high mountains. However, with each step we take on this journey, we are shaping who we are and who we will become. And with this adventurous path, every day, we will discover the best in ourselves — if we accept what happens to us along the way.